When I retired from teaching six years ago I had a whole list of things I wanted to accomplish. Of course my list is still long and mostly unchecked. You find the things you put off while you were working you still avoid! My albums are waiting for pictures, my closets full of unneeded stuff, and drawers of material are ready to be cut and sewed. But one thing I did pursue which is a passion of mine: writing. I have taught writing in my classes and have dabbled at it myself over the years, but with retirement I finally had the time to devote to it. While not attempting to write the “great American novel”, I have done some serious writing. However, it was when I decided to express myself through blogging that I ran into a roadblock. When I tried to schedule some time to blog, other problems or events would push it to the bottom of my list. This was also the time when my mother started having problems and and I was spending time worrying, making decisions or driving up to help her. Then I finally realized I was at cross purposes. I should combine the two. And this is the result!!
You should probably also know a little of my family background to understand the context in which I am writing. I come from a middle class family. My dad worked and my mom was a stay at home mother. She was an active and involved mother and had many friends that she socialized with. She and my dad both made decisions, but her will usually prevailed. My parents bought their house in 1954 and my mother has lived there since that time. My dad passed away sixteen years ago. I have a sister and brother that I am still close to. Though I lived closest to my mother’s home and was probably called on to help more, my brother and sister have been supportive as well. I write this blog from my perspective; however, you should be aware that most of the decisions are ones agreed upon by them as well. For this I am thankful.